I am not seeking mere play (though play partners are welcome), but rather a grand, marvelous love affair that is suffused with care, great and challenging conversation, infectious laughter, reciprocal influence, and an ever-deepening intimacy ... with a pervasive undercurrent of kink running continually throughout. Yes, I know it's a rather tall order - it seems I am on quest of love and kink that seems rather difficult to obtain. Are you deviously Dominant? Have wicked mind that implores you to explore dark places? Do you have an uncontrollable desire to inflict torment - mental and physical. Are you seeking a partner that wants to go deeper and further? Are you a Goddess that adores to be loved and worshipped? Above all I'm honest about myself and what I do. I value intelligence and personal integrity. I love establishing and then surrendering that circle of power, engaging and exchanging energy. What I am missing is that sounding board of Dominant energy. I am active in the local Indianapolis scene...it's small but it's here. So I have a number of friends Doms, subs, and Pro-Mistress in my little circle of friends. I also have a nice little circle of vanilla friends as well...I like introducing them a little at a time. I am a masochist and sadist, an explorer and lover. I like boots, black leather, tattoos, piercings and an amazing smile. I am a business owner, a scuba diver, a sissy maid and mostly submissive sometimes Dominant. I love and adore women and enjoy making sure she is happy, content and fulfilled. My kinks run broad and deep and are usually always open for discussion. I like to find the edges and run along the edge. Though like most hard limits do exist - eliminating the most extreme and esoteric forms of play. Finding a compatible woman to date is my first wish, someone open to love and a long term relationship. My thoughts on chastity and denial: I am seeking a dominant woman that believes in the logic, power exchange and headspace of keeping her man in chastity. For two people involved in a D/s style relationship I believe it's important that common interests mesh. The Dominant woman I seek, not only enjoys the basics of a BDSM lifestyle, but takes particular pleasure in orgasm denial and chastity. A Domme that knows that recognizes that submission and desire are the keys to a mutually beneficial relationship. Since learning about D/s about 5 years ago I have spent much time in self-examination and actualization that has lead me to this quest. Though many doms and switches have mastered the physical aspects of play, which I love, there are few who have conquered the mental planes which D/s draws it's deepest pleasures. I am always open to new friends and potential play partners - either as a top or bottom. Though my quest is to find a woman who is dominant or switch - with leanings toward dom. If you are a submissive or switch leaning to the submissive side and feel we match in our vanilla lives drop me a note. Please feel free to write if anything peaks your interest! Vanilla Interests for fun: Live music ... my heart often drifts back to New Orleans, live blues, jazz, cajun and zydeco, rock and roll, edgy rock, hard rock, alternative.... I like to ride my mountain bike, play pool, throw a frisbee, head to Cozumel and go scuba diving. Hiking, walking, biking, fishing, camping. favorite hot spots: The Caribbean and Mexico and my favorite haunts. I am a big diver. Also, I love to visit The Rocky Mountains and go skiing. Future trips?: WindJammer sailing trip, skiing in Colorado, New Orleans, Europe. favorite things: Throwing a frisbee. Favorite new TV show is Carnivale on HBO... but I am not a super big TV person. I love New Orleans style cooking and food - crawfish and oysters anyone? current book: I am currently re-reading The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand. (If you enjoy Ayn Rand's books - Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged we probably have much in common.) sense of humor: Clever: Nothing’s better than a quick-witted comeback, Dry / Sarcastic: I'm not bitter because I'm single. Quite the opposite, Friendly: I’ll laugh at anything sports: Biking, Golf, Walking / Hiking, Billiards / Pool, Skiing other: Camping, Coffee and friends, Cooking, Dining out, Fishing, Movies, Museums and art, Music and concerts, Performing arts, Playing cards, Playing sports, Political interests, Shopping/Antiques, Travel, Wine tasting

My Ideal Person I would truly like to find a woman who is capable of treating me as a genuine partner that most of the world would recognize as a fabulous relationship! Though to our inner circle we would know where the power truly lies. I want to find a woman who not only stimulates my physical needs and desires but challenges my mental intellect as well. Someone who I can sit and read in front of a roaring fire with ... or go hiking up to the peak of a mountain or scuba diving in the sea.

Someone who is as interested in my interests as I hers ... who is independent and capable of allowing me freedom to express my dreams, my goals, as well as my hardships ... I am looking for the possibility of that deeper connection we all long for and few find... and I am not settling on anything less.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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